Temi Otedola explains why she is leaving New year’s ” Resolution” in 2017
Temi Otedola, daughter of Nigerian billionaire oil magnate, Femi
Otedola has explained the reason why she’s leaving New Year’s
“Resolutions” in 2017 and focus on ‘Intentions’ instead.
In a piece shared on her blog, Temi wrote;
Here we go again. As I write this post on the final day of 2017, I
think back to what this year held and what I’m hoping for in 2018. At
the end of every year, I take about an hour or so looking back on my
achievements, failures, lessons, and keep these in mind when considering
what I would like to change at the start of the new calendar. But I
have also found the conventional narrative of total-life-transformation
at the start of every new year exhausting. A lot of us feel the pressure
to completely metamorphose our lives. “This will be the year I cut all
of the toxic people out of my life”, “this will be the year I loose 50
pounds”, “this will be the year I become financially independent”- the
list goes on and on. For this New Year, I’m putting these overarching
At the start of this year I made a list of about 5 things I wanted to
change. They were the traditionally vague “resolutions”, and although
2017 was a crucial year for me, I can’t honestly say that many of these
goals were wholly achieved. As I began to write this post, I also began
to seriously question how useful resolutions truly are in the
conventional sense… What does the term “resolution” even mean?
- A firm decision to do or not to do something.
“she kept her resolution not to see Anne any more”
synonyms: intention, resolve, intent aim, aspiration, design, purpose, object, plan
I mulled over this definition for a while. I’m all for positive
thinking and making decisive moves for greater outcomes, but the actual
term “resolution” still left me feeling rather uninspired. Maybe
there’s something overtly binary about choosing “to do, or not to do
something”. The strict definition of “resolution” excludes
contemplation, gradual progress, and all the other characteristics that
make up the innate human flaws we face day to day. For example, if a
resolution I had for 2018 was to posses more patience when dealing with
others, it’s highly unlikely that I would be able to wake up
tomorrow, on the 1st of January, and suddenly be able to have absolute
patience in all situations. Wouldn’t it be more effective if we worked
on smaller steps towards overall self-improvement?
Therefore, I will not have any New Year’s resolutions this year, only New Year’s intentions.
- a thing intended; an aim or plan.
“she was full of good intentions”
synonyms: aim, purpose, intent, objective, object, goal target, end
There’s something about the word “intention” that seems much more
fitting in facing the New Year. It’s a word loaded with potential,
possibility, and attainability. Instead of overwhelming my hopes for
2018 with enormous statements that are daunting to tackle head on, I
will set myself smaller, more tangible goals that can be confronted on a
weekly or even daily basis. I truly believe that colossal,
life-changing goals can be achieved from a combination of smaller
actions. So, for example if my New Year’s intention was: “I want to run a
marathon in 2018”, I wouldn’t immediately try to run all 26 miles,
instead I would gradually increase the duration I run each week. Another
example is if my New Year’s intention was: “I want to be healthy in
2018”, I could cut-out fizzy drinks in January, and then fast food in
February. This method consistently includes new objectives as the year
goes on, and so your continuously working towards an aim.
So, now it’s time to be completely honest with you. What are my 2018
intentions? You’ll see in the list below how specific I’m trying to be,
as these larger goals will be broken down daily or weekly into smaller
steps that I can start cultivating straight away.
So here it goes…
Temi’s 2018 Intentions
Start University deadlines in good time and get my degree!
Be more personal and thoughtful with jtofashion.com content (starting with this)
Declutter/donate any unloved belongings
Devote more time and attention to my family
Continue to ignore the naysayers and any negativity on social media
I hope some of you will be inspired to join my newfound “intention”
movement, taking daily/weekly steps to reach a larger goal. Remember,
don’t let the New Year overwhelm, you got this, I got this, we all got
this! Whether you decide to stick with resolutions or have decided
tomorrow is a day just like any other, join me in starting 2018 on a
positive note, giving special attention to who you care for the most.
HAPPY NEW YEAR. Love, Temi.